by: Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC
I am a 40 year old, recently widowed female. Six weeks ago, my husband of only four years shot himself on our back porch. Since then I have been lost and struggling. We were just at the beginning of our life together. Mike was a professional who had started his own (struggling) business. I have a good career, and we had purchased a home together that I told him, at the time, I would never have bought without him as it really requires a guy who is great with his hands to maintain. But here I am, all alone with a house that is beyond my ability or desire to keep up, memories of a relationship I believed would be there for many years, and my dream of becoming a mother, possibly destroyed.
by: Jim Duzak, JD
I’m 31 and seriously thinking of marrying a man my friends think isn’t right for me.
I’m a branch manager of a bank and finishing up my MBA on weekends. “Chris” is my age, but only completed one year of college. After that, he enlisted in the Marine Corps and is now an EMT. My friends feel that the educational disparity between us will eventually kill our relationship.
by: Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC
My wife Laura and I have been together for eight years and married for six, and we have two wonderful daughters, ages four and two. We recently purchased a home, both of us are successfully in business for ourselves, and we are financially stable. In other words, we have a lot on our plates but are very fortunate and have so much to be thankful for. With all we have our marriage and family life should be going well, right? Unfortunately it isn’t, and as our arguments have become more frequent so has the strain and emotional distance between us.
by: Tammy Greene, HAD expert
It seems to me that Father’s Day does not get the attention it deserves. It has traditionally taken a serious backseat to Mother’s Day. Maybe it is because Father’s Day didn’t become a national holiday until 58 years after we decided to annually celebrate our Moms. Maybe it is because, traditionally, mothers have taken on the role to care and nurture while fathers carried the burden of being the provider.
by: Toni Coleman LCSW, CMC
I am a divorced mom who has started to dip her toes into the dating pool, again. I want to do it right this time around and have been reading the great advice on the divorce support center website and talking to other divorced women.
by: Rossana Condoleo
It’s been many weeks, but what my mother told me over the phone is still echoing in my ears! “You helped so many people find their partner for life and to build a family, but you are still re-Single my dear! Why? A million dollar question!
by Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC
Dear Toni: I am a 50-something, twice married but presently single female. My first marriage lasted 22 years and produced 3 children who are now grown. Their father was a very supportive partner in many ways, but he was completely irresponsible and could not — would not — hold down a job, pay a bill, or balance the checkbook even though he was a college graduate and came from a privleged background.
Dear Jim: I’m 34 and have been married two years. My husband and I separated last month because all we ever did was fight. I’m not sure I want to get back together but right now I can’t even think straight. He contacts me at least ten times a day begging me to take him back. He texts me, emails me, he calls me at work and shows up at my work, he even calls my mother to tell her how much he misses me.
by: Jim Duzak
Dear Jim: I just heard from “Michael,” an old boyfriend from the early 1980s. We didn’t so much break up as drift apart; He went off to grad school in Chicago, and I went to Spain for a year that turned into three years. But I guess I never lost my feelings for him because they all came back when I saw his name on the email. I’m married and so is Michael.