How Do I Move On and Get Over My Divorce

what makes you happy and how to get out of your own very personal slump.

Get moving:

Get out of bed in the morning.Try setting your alarm clock a half hour earlier, and if you don’t feel like taking a walk or doing something active with your extra time, sit in a chair and read, or just be still and meditate.After awhile, who knows, you might even become a morning person!

Set a fitness goal.Find something new or something you’ve been wanting to try.Maybe it’s bike riding, or swimming.Maybe you’ve always wanted to try Bikram yoga orstart lifting weights.Start today.

Clean up the physical and emotional messes:

Start with the easy stuff.Straighten your closets and toss the junk.Wash your windows so you can see out into the beautiful world.Clean your carpets, wash your light fixtures, wipe down your walls and cupboards.You might even consider a fresh coat of paint.There is simply nothing quite like living in a clean house.

Now, the hard stuff.Our emotional messes can be more difficult to clean up, but a clean environment will definitely get you headed in the right direction.Do whatever you have to at this point to let go of the anger, the resentment, the sadness you are experiencing.It might mean talking with a counselor, or it could simply be reconnecting with friends and family.Whatever you need at this time, go do it.

Focus on your goals:

Finish that degree you’ve been secretly wanting.Learn to cook a different way, and try out new recipes on your friends and family.Relocate to a new house or even a new city.The change of scenery will give you something of your own to enjoy.Do something that will make you happy.Setting goals and working toward them can do wonders for getting your mind off the negative and focused on something positive.Whatever it is you’ve been wanting to do, now is the time.

Begin to create a new future:

It may be difficult to look back and realize you’re at the finish line of the life you were living, but the exciting end to that story is that you are at the starting line of your new life.And it’s yours to do with whatever you want.

Take steps to improve yourself.Get healthier, learn a language, start a new hobby, begin volunteering.Imagine what you want your life to look like and take the steps to get yourself there.Work hard to achieve your goals.

And finally,

Makeover yourself and your attitude:

Start eating better, exercise more and get more sleep.Get yourself stronger emotionally by learning to love yourself, accepting your set of circumstances and moving forward.Take steps to increase your spirituality.Start increasing your intellectual health by learning new things and doing new things.

Yes, you are starting over.But opportunities await you.Don’t think of life after divorce as a time of loss and sadness.Think of it as a chance to begin again.Do what it takes to get your life in order now.Who knows, you may just find true joy and peace for the very first time in your life.


Janeen was a newscaster for KUTV News until 2001. Since that time, she has been actively producing commercials and special programming through her company, “Your TV Spot.” She has hosted several television and internet productions, and has been a spokesperson for several products and companies. Janeen authored her first book, “Save Your Marriage in 30,” hoping to help families have greater success and live happier lives. She is a leader over the youth in her church and takes a special interest in helping kids stay on track with their lives. Janeen is currently co-creating “Teen Impact TV,” a website for high school students to give them a creative and emotional outlet.

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