Dating After Divorce: Beyond Sexy, Maintaining a Spark-Part 5

by: Dr. Felicia Clark

This is the last of a 5-part series that teaches women how to have the relationship of their dreams. Part 1 is about activating feminine energy to trigger a man’s provider/protector instinct. Part 2 discusses being upfront about yours needs without fear of ‘running off’ the wrong man. Part 3 teaches how to be receptive and part 4 teaches how to choose spiritual qualities over survival needs. Now, you will learn how to be sensual using mating science.

When my clients learn to attract a man through spirit, not physical attraction, some worry that the relationship will be passionless or boring. However, if you want to receive quality treatment, you start with spirit attraction - man’s provider/protector instinct. Later, you add in sexual attraction - a man’s procreative instinct.

Women spend a lot of energy, money, and emotion doing ineffective things to increase their level of attractiveness. This is because women are not taught mating science. Females have natural triggers to attract males. Because women often listen to competitive women to learn ‘what men like,’ most women think they are far less attractive than they actually are.

There are 15 mating triggers that females can easily stimulate to create passion. If this sounds too scientific, that is because it is. Men already attracted to you are pre-programmed biologically to respond to certain triggers. I will share 4 triggers in this article.

First, it is important to know that a man who keeps coming around is sexually interested enough to respond to your ‘mating calls.’ Therefore, you can release worry about whether or not you are sexually attractive enough for him. Just focus on sparking passion. You simply nurture and honor a man’s sexual energy so that he always like you are sexually interested - whether you are having frequent sex or not. In fact, as a man ages or is stressed, he may want to have intercourse less. However, he still needs to feel the spark of sexual attraction.

So, here are 4 things that any woman can do to create a spark and be more attractive:

  • Create Polarization. Do the opposite of masculinity. Think of 2 magnets pulled apart and how forcefully they snap back together. Masculine and feminine energy works like that because they are polar opposites. Often, women use masculine energy to survive and forget about feminine energy. So, being in your feminine energy, a receptive energy, makes you instantly attractive.


  • Increase mystery while maintaining warmth. Mysterious energy can be heightened by a change in physical appearance (not too drastic), a slower paced energy level, and subtle movements. Simple semi-detectable movements of the eyes, lips, tongue, fingers, shoulder, toes or hair are things that captivate a man. Your mysterious presence communicates ‘I have a secret for you.’ But, remember that you are warm enough to make him feel like you are connected to him. Touchable and tastefully exposed skin also communicates warmth.


  • Wear red lipstick. Wear red lipstick and smile. Do not over smile if you are adding mystery, but smile enough to look happy. Stark red lips increase sexual attraction.


  • Stimulate all senses using sensory that you like. It is important for you to stimulate ALL of your senses on an ongoing basis. You will naturally become more sensual. Men respond accordingly. Additionally, you stimulating your senses saturates the environment with an alive feminine presence that creates the polarization mentioned earlier.


Sight – Have beauty in the environment – including you (men are very visual). You could have art, dim lighting, lit candles, or vivid colors. Sound - Play soft flowing music. Classical or smooth jazz often works.

Taste – Have pallet pleasing treats. Chocolate, fruit, wine, dessert, or cheese works well. A big dinner is not necessary. Cooking, cleaning up after a meal, or going out to eat are things that can zap your sensual energy.

Smell - Use smells that mimic food. Cinnamon and vanilla are winners. Candles with these aromas are a 2-for-1 as they provide scent and beautiful lighting.

Touch – In addition to affectionate touches, have fabrics that feel good against the skin.

Learn more mating triggers in Dr. Clark’s coaching program called: “How to become attractive in one day.” Email:This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. for details. For all 5-parts of this article series, join the mailing list at http://www.ebooklifecoach.com to download them. Dr. Clark is a coach and experienced college professor who specializes in the math and science of happiness. She is currently seeking sponsors for her book tour: “End Body Terrorism: One Size Never Fit All.” Please logon to http://www.gofundme.com/feliciaclark to help make the book tour possible. You will save A BUNCH on travel as a ‘thank you’ for your support. Dr. Clark is a contributing expert at HopeAfterDivorce.org, DivorceSupportCenter.com, FamilyShare.com, and CupidsPulse.com. 

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