Unhappy Valentine's Day?

by: Michele Sfakianos, RN, BSN

It doesn’t have to be unhappy! After a divorce, many holidays can be depressing. Valentine’s Day can be the most depressing of all. The media promotes this day for “lovers” and those not in a relationship – or just getting out of one – may feel left out. This can also leave you feeling as if something is wrong with you because you don’t have someone “special” to share it with.

It is time to adjust how we feel about our holidays. We shouldn’t feel pressured to have a special someone in our life to celebrate. We should love ourselves and celebrate that love every day, not just on holidays. Schedule time with yourself for Valentine’s Day on your calendar and honor the appointment.

If you have children, celebrate your holidays with them. They are that special person in your life. If you don’t have visitation that day, then pick another day and celebrate. Days are just a number, so why not pick a day when you have your children and celebrate? Children love special celebrations, especially when you tell them that they are the reason for the celebration. If you don’t have children, why not plan a special outing just for yourself?

Here are some great ideas for your special celebration.

  • Call a friend or a family member and go to a movie; give each other a manicure; or bake something together.
  • Turn off all of your electronic devices and read that book or magazine you have wanted to read.
  • Take your children on a nature walk or to a local park. Don’t just send them off to play, go play with them.
  • Make yourself a fancy dinner. Use your best dishes and a wine glass. Make sure to put fresh cut flowers in the center of the table as a present to yourself.
  • Take a warm bath with essential oils. Don’t forget the candles! Just totally “unplug” during this time. Read that book or magazine we talked about earlier.
  • Share your time with someone in need. Volunteer at a local shelter or soup kitchen.
  • Turn on the tunes and dance! Kids love this too!
  • Set the evening aside to look at old photos – especially those that bring back great memories.

Celebrations don’t have to be expensive, but it is important to acknowledge the holidays. Valentine’s Day is what you make of it. It is a day to celebrate love. We all love. No matter if you are alone or part of a couple, celebrate yourself and the power you have to make others feel valued on Valentine’s Day. Remember: the most important thing you can do to bring true love into your life is to love yourself!

MICHELE SFAKIANOS is a Registered Nurse, Life Skills Expert, Speaker and Author.Michele is the owner of Open Pages Publishing, LLC offering quality self-publishing. Her first book “Useful Information for Everyday Living” was published October 2010 and was later changed to “The 4-1-1 on Life Skills” then released June 2011. Her next book, “The 4-1-1 on Step Parenting” was released October 2011. Michele’s latest book, “The 4-1-1 on Surviving Teenhood” was published October 2012. She is well respected in her areas of expertise. Her years of experience as a Registered Nurse, Mother and Life Skills Expert have given her the knowledge and wisdom to write her books. Michele is a contributing expert for HopeAfterDivorce.org, FamilyShare.com, CupidsPulse.com, and LAFamily.com.


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