Stuck in an elevator

by: Bruce Starr

Do you remember TV shows or movies from “yesteryear” when two people got stuck in an elevator together pre-cellphone? After an awkward or even nerve-wracking first few minutes, they settle down and give each other that uncomfortable smile.

Eventually, one of them decides to break the silence by starting a neutral conversation about the weather or the economy. As they remain stuck for more than a few minutes, one says, “I hope we are not stuck in the elevator too long because my family will start to worry about me.

“Oh, that’s nice to have a family who cares about you. I am not sure mine would miss me if I was gone very long,” he said with a smile.

“Well, I am sorry to hear that. My family is expecting me for dinner and they will get concerned if they don’t hear from me soon.”

“How many kids do you have?”


“Oh, that’s nice. Tell me about your family.”

Before you know it, and because there was no choice or interruption, they had a meaningful conversation about things that mattered. Imagine that! As the time passes, each learns more and more about the other. A spark of interest grows in both people. With no place to go, they both listen intently to what the other person has to say.

After awhile, they may even start to think it is an interesting and special person they are sharing this frightening event with. Perhaps one even wonders if they were supposed to meet in this way, to bring them together for reasons they are not yet aware of. Two different worlds came together to have one experience, so rare in this world as we speed along on the Internet Freeway.

We are traveling so fast and trying so hard to keep our mind and intellect stimulated or to meet the next person, we discount the very person who is before us at the moment. People looking to the computer for their main source of meeting someone have lost that tactile approach to slowly getting to know someone.

For the last five thousand years, people came together over time. They got to know and admire each other slowly and naturally. Feelings take time to grow. Thoughts about someone change, but feelings about someone, such as a first love, rarely change or leave you in an entire lifetime.

I am not suggesting that you should hope to get stuck in an elevator as a good way to meet someone, or that you were meant to be with someone because you got stuck in an elevator with them. There are many stories, over the years, about people who made a romantic connection after living through a difficult situation together. Perhaps because of that special, quality time they spent together, they connected on such a level that even if they were not meant to be romantic partners, they stayed friends for life.

My wife and I were not guaranteed anything when we first met. She did not tell me, “Call me when you have your life together.” We built our lives together. I suggest people look to do the same if you want to build a firm foundation for love. Focus on each and every person who is presented to you. Even if they are not the “one” for you, let them know how much you value their friendship. Who doesn’t want to hear they are valued?

Not only will it warm their heart to hear something like that, it will warm your heart even more to say it. When this person recalls your personable and warm side to friends, they may think of you when they meet another interesting single person who might be just perfect for you.

Bruce Starr is the Original LUVcoach and specializes in instructing others on how to transform from player to lover.  Bruce loves when people try new ideas and something other than what they have been doing by thinking out-of-the-box to help find the love you desire.  To learn how you can build and enjoy the love you have, find a true love or about the value of spending quality time with new people, visit: www.luvcoach.net.  To schedule your complimentary consultation or book LUVcoach Bruce Starr email: This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.">This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. or call 203-565-6170.



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